Or at least the ones I did!
I’ve been meaning to write this blog post for weeks now but for some reason have put it off. I’m not sure if it’s because I have been SUPER busy, or if I was putting it off because I’m a bit afraid to write this, since my content is normally beauty or fashion related. But anyway… here is my fat exposé on the guys you will meet in college (or some of the ones I have). This post is supposed to be fun and playful, so enjoy an easy Sunday read.
The one that can’t take a hint
I promise no matter what, you will meet this guy. This is the guy that lingers around you and your friends at parties just hoping to catch your eye so that they can approach you. I’ll admit one of them did approach me and asked for my number (bonus points for that one), but after swerving several attempts to dance with him, and pulling away after he tried to lean in for a kiss, you would think he would take a hint. Wrong. Instead, he will tell you anything he thinks you want to hear (you look so beautiful or you’re gorgeous) in hopes of making a move.
I once had a guy try to get with me, just to get with another girl right in front of me to try and make me jealous. He was looking at me while making out with her (yeah bud, that definitely makes me want you?! Yuck!).
Unfortunately, this isn’t just about one guy. These boys are everywhere, and honestly, I don’t think there will ever be a time where they don’t exist. If you know who you are (and for whatever reason, you’re reading this), please take this as a hint.
The one that’s simply an “athlete”
Ok, I’ll give this guy some credit- he is an actual athlete (that counts for something right?). But that’s really all there is to him. I tried so hard to get to know this guy. I hung out with his friends and even had dinner and frozen yogurt with him, but no matter how hard I tried to convince myself I was into it, I just wasn’t. He was simple, and I really don’t think we had anything in common other than being attracted to each other.
Don’t get me wrong there are many benefits to “seeing” an athlete. They have attractive friends that you can set your friends up with and they aren’t your typical frat boy (but then again, wouldn’t you say their sports team is a frat within itself?). My best advice is to vibe it out, maybe there is something more to them (but keep in mind, their sport is their life).
The typical frat boy
Can I just leave it there? (just kidding) These boys have their playbooks memorized. They know every play by play backwards, forwards, and diagonal. But they aren’t as smart as they think, when the same game is played time and time again, word gets around. The things you were saying to one girl get brought up by another who tells their friends who tell someone until eventually, every girl who has seen the same guy knows their deal.
Look, not all of them are bad. I just think being in a frat gives guys some super big undeserved ego boost. It’s like it gives them the right to act like an asshole at times. But in reality, there are some good ones who are actually really fun and easy to be around (I even fell for one). I bet at some point during your college experience you will end up falling under their spell, but proceed with caution.
The one you can’t avoid
Sometimes you meet a guy and suddenly you can’t get rid of him. He somehow pops up everywhere. You see him in your hall, while walking to class, walking out of the gym (looking like a sweaty mess), or even while grabbing dinner with your friends. If it’s not you, I bet it will be someone in your friend group. At first, you are polite and say hello, but then those hellos just turn into smiles, and those smiles fade into silence. It happens to the best of us, but there’s always that one, that you just can’t seem to avoid.
The one that always comes back
You’ve heard the saying: “they always come back.” And let me tell you, they always do, but some more than others. This is the guy where things were going great and then they go MIA for a bit. A few weeks later, they hit you up with a snap chat in hopes to see you again. This repeated pattern is what gets most girls. It’s the thrill of not knowing what’s going to come next, and the game of tag leaves you wondering where you stand.
I personally have a love and hate relationship with this kind of guy. I love a bit of a chase, but at some point it just gets old. By the third or fourth round, most girls know what they want, and the uncertainty that was once exhilarating is now frustrating. If I can offer one piece of advice it’s that if they leave the first time, they will leave again. So next time they come crawling back, be the one to put an end to the childish game unless they are ready to quit playing.
While these are only a few of the boys you could encounter in college, there are so many other ones. Like the musician who thinks he’s really going to be someone someday, or the guy in your math class who you wish would just make a move or even the guy that lives next door. All in all, college is a time to experience life and with that comes meeting a bunch of guys: the good, the bad, and the ugly.
What do you think?